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Most of what they were citing were issues you'd have working for a company that doesn't have that culture, and a guy who was at home all day with a two month ol

by Pigo 10y ago

Most of what they were citing were issues you'd have working for a company that doesn't have that culture, and a guy who was at home all day with a two month old. I love my son, but when he was born I quickly found out why older guys were happy to be at work.

joshmanders 10y ago
But at the same time, I am having zero issues working from home with a 2 year old and a 7 year old. Everyone knows when daddy's office door is shut, he's working and is not to be bothered. You can't expect to work from home and still interact with everyone who is home.
- brianwawok 10y ago
  Exactly. Get an office with a door and hours. If it's before 6pm, I am "at work". I try and get out to the kitchen for lunch, but I can't just hang out on the couch all day.
- Arizhel 10y ago
  I have a friend with a ADHD 7-year-old. There's no way this would ever work with that kid: you can tell him over and over to stop bouncing a ball around and he'll just do it again in a couple of minutes. Expecting him to not bother you for hours at a time is a pipe dream.
  - joshmanders 10y ago
    I'd assume that if you were to not be disturbed for 8 hours for work, someone else would be there to take care of the children, so ummmm, lock the door?
    - Arizhel 10y ago
      >I'd assume that if you were to not be disturbed for 8 hours for work, someone else would be there to take care of the children, so ummmm, lock the door? And where is this "someone else" supposed to come from? You have enough money to hire a full-time nanny? For many professionals, both parents work (and the mother taking significant time off to raise kids is a career-killer).
      - joshmanders 10y ago
        Well, if you're not working from home, but instead an office, where do your kids go? I think you're just grasping for excuses for why working from home can't work with kids.
        Arizhel 10y ago
        Day care, I suppose. But doesn't having to drive your kids to day care remove a big positive in favor of working at home (eliminating the commute)? I don't think I'm "grasping for excuses" at all. The kids that I've seen and met would be completely impossible for me to work at home and maintain any concentration. I'm honestly befuddled how parents of kids under the age of 10 get any rest at all. I guess some of them are lucky and get kids like me when I was young (I was quiet and liked to sit in my room on my computer, or doing puzzles, etc.), but the kids my friends have aren't like this at all, and from my observation are the norm these days (I was an odd, quiet kid even back in those days).
        joshmanders 10y ago
        My wife works, she leaves at 8AM to take our 7 year old to school and our 2 year old to daycare. At 3:15PM my father-in-law picks up our 7 year old from school and hangs out with her. At 5PM my wife gets off work and goes and picks up our 7 year old. I go and pick up our 2 year old. We come home, make dinner, have family time, and put the kids to bed. My only distraction during the day is my 4 month old lab puppy who needs a little play time and bathroom breaks. It's not tough. It's about having a consistent schedule. I did however get lucky as my 2 year old has slept through the night all but 4 nights since she was 2 days old. My wife goes to bed around 9PM, I go to bed around 11:30PM, she gets up at 6:30AM and I get up at 7:45AM.

by Pigo 10y ago

joshmanders 10y ago

But at the same time, I am having zero issues working from home with a 2 year old and a 7 year old. Everyone knows when daddy's office door is shut, he's working and is not to be bothered. You can't expect to work from home and still interact with everyone who is home.

brianwawok 10y ago
Exactly. Get an office with a door and hours. If it's before 6pm, I am "at work". I try and get out to the kitchen for lunch, but I can't just hang out on the couch all day.
Arizhel 10y ago
I have a friend with a ADHD 7-year-old. There's no way this would ever work with that kid: you can tell him over and over to stop bouncing a ball around and he'll just do it again in a couple of minutes. Expecting him to not bother you for hours at a time is a pipe dream.
- joshmanders 10y ago
  I'd assume that if you were to not be disturbed for 8 hours for work, someone else would be there to take care of the children, so ummmm, lock the door?
  - Arizhel 10y ago
    >I'd assume that if you were to not be disturbed for 8 hours for work, someone else would be there to take care of the children, so ummmm, lock the door? And where is this "someone else" supposed to come from? You have enough money to hire a full-time nanny? For many professionals, both parents work (and the mother taking significant time off to raise kids is a career-killer).
    - joshmanders 10y ago
      Well, if you're not working from home, but instead an office, where do your kids go? I think you're just grasping for excuses for why working from home can't work with kids.
      - Arizhel 10y ago
        Day care, I suppose. But doesn't having to drive your kids to day care remove a big positive in favor of working at home (eliminating the commute)? I don't think I'm "grasping for excuses" at all. The kids that I've seen and met would be completely impossible for me to work at home and maintain any concentration. I'm honestly befuddled how parents of kids under the age of 10 get any rest at all. I guess some of them are lucky and get kids like me when I was young (I was quiet and liked to sit in my room on my computer, or doing puzzles, etc.), but the kids my friends have aren't like this at all, and from my observation are the norm these days (I was an odd, quiet kid even back in those days).
        joshmanders 10y ago
        My wife works, she leaves at 8AM to take our 7 year old to school and our 2 year old to daycare. At 3:15PM my father-in-law picks up our 7 year old from school and hangs out with her. At 5PM my wife gets off work and goes and picks up our 7 year old. I go and pick up our 2 year old. We come home, make dinner, have family time, and put the kids to bed. My only distraction during the day is my 4 month old lab puppy who needs a little play time and bathroom breaks. It's not tough. It's about having a consistent schedule. I did however get lucky as my 2 year old has slept through the night all but 4 nights since she was 2 days old. My wife goes to bed around 9PM, I go to bed around 11:30PM, she gets up at 6:30AM and I get up at 7:45AM.