> It doesn't bother me to force her to internalize some of the costs she is inflicting on me. She's not inflicting those costs on you. You're offering to pay.

> It doesn't bother me to force her to internalize some of the costs she is inflicting on me. She's not inflicting those costs on you. You're offering to pay. That offer doesn't obligate her to make things cheap for you. If you don't like what it costs for you to feel good about yourself, that's your problem.