Let me put it this way, you are making one of those points that hits too uncomfortably close to home for most people to answer honestly and still maintain their

Let me put it this way, you are making one of those points that hits too uncomfortably close to home for most people to answer honestly and still maintain their own delusions about their own lives. So, you will likely be shouted down so that people can insist to themselves that they have True Love or something. I spent about 3.5 years of my life in therapy with two different ministers discussing the sexual abuse I had endured as a child. I have an incredibly thick skin when it comes to analyzing such things. Most other people find me pretty horrifying and I have largely given up on trying to have meaningful discussions about certain things in public because they tend to inspire lynch mobs. I think a marriage based on practical arrangements is often a better marriage than one based on some weird idea that we are madly in love. But, hey, I am some heretic, as already established. :-)