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I agree, which is why I upboated you. My wife is a stay at home mom. Makes life way better for all of us, much less stressful for the children and she enjoys it
by Ascetik 10y ago
I agree, which is why I upboated you. My wife is a stay at home mom. Makes life way better for all of us, much less stressful for the children and she enjoys it. I wish more women would consider it, especially if their husbands make a living wage. Life isn't all about money.
- twobyfour 10y agoFuck that. I make a living wage too, tyvm, and I like my career. Why shouldn't the dad be the stay at home parent?
- Ascetik 10y agoCool story feminist. You're obviously triggered by my patriarchy.
- lanstin 10y agoI used my winnings in the dot com explosion to be a stay at home Dad while my less financially successful wife worked. It was awesome; I think men in general need to try harder than women to forge a really strong connection as parents, so stay at home Dad => parenting equality, all else being equal. I was part time for few years also. Work of course hated it and it was hard to re-enter. I don't regret it of course, and kids are older and my time at work is creeping back up. Now I can do tech work sitting next to them doing homework. The kids tell me their problems and at least listen to my arguments for being the person that knows the most math in the room, regardless of career. There were sacrifices but a lot of the worries I see expressed about work life balance don't really worry me. With the strong connection to the kids, I can feel how they are doing: I have that mother's sense of can I work late tonight or do I need to focus on the people. I feel the parenting skills also have made me more effective at work, both in cutting out useless activities because my time is sacred and in seeing the non-verbal emotional sides of people. The idea of how people can have trouble saying certain important things and how to respond to that happening is essential when dealing with kids and useful when dealing with engineers. So I highly recommend staying at home for men that have the capacity for it. (It is hard and you have to be almost totally self driven; no one will thank or notice what you do).
- Mz 10y agoYou qualify for my personal Real Manly Man Award (TM). ;) My father was a two time veteran and purple heart winner who never changed the diapers of any of his own kids, but stayed home to care for his first born grandchild when my brother got divorced and got custody. My family of origin is really, really big on the idea that kids need a full time caregiver. Not so much on the "it needs to be the mother," which is humorous because my parents' marriage was so very old fashioned for so long that no one would have predicted that grandpa would stay home while grandma kept working. #yougoguy #fistbump
- tburmeister 10y agoMaybe more men should consider it, "especially if their [wives] make a living wage."
- Ascetik 10y agoBeing a stay at home dad is emasculating.
- tburmeister 10y ago#masculinitysofragile
- Ascetik 10y ago#brainwashedcuckedliberal Not for me cause I would never do it. But men who do are beta cucks who let their wives steamroll them on everything then end up getting divorced and lose everything while she cheats on him. But it's his fault cause reasons. Traditional gender roles have been the back-bone of civilization for thousands of years, when you try to change the natural order into some progressive bullshit you get the horrid state of society we have today and unhappy families.
- sctb 10y agoThis is not a rose garden of a thread, but we have to ask you to please not call names or comment unsubstantively. We're hasty to ban accounts that continue on like this. https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html
- metaphorm 10y agothis isn't twitter
- dceddia 10y agoAgree with the others, it doesn't have to be the wife who stays home. Obviously every family is different, the spouses have different goals and skillsets, etc -- but the decision can certainly be made along goal + skillset lines rather than gender.
- nommm-nommm 10y agoHow insulting. Choosing to work rather than spending 24 hours a day with your children isn't always all about money.