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> I have thick enough skin or I wouldn’t blog. ... > It’s totally acceptable to me for people to harshly criticize my > points-of-view. No problem
by pavs 16y ago
> I have thick enough skin or I wouldn’t blog.
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> It’s totally acceptable to me for people to harshly criticize my
> points-of-view. No problem. But calling me a f***ing a**hole or some
> of the other epithets used goes too far.
Does not compute.
Though I agree with you that such language is not nice and can be (should be) avoided as much as possible. Some people sometimes have bad days and certain topics can bring the worst in you. As long as it is not regular pattern of certain individuals being very liberal with their Fs and As, I think it is fine. The examples you gave are cherry picked in reference to a discussion about a blog post that you made and was directed at you. It says nothing about the general level of civility at HN, which I think is pretty decent, not perfect, but decent.
Forcing people to use their real name is the worst idea that I can think of.
- looprecur 16y agoI don't think "fucking asshole" is much worse than "trophy kid". They're about comparable in terms of incivility.
- tedunangst 16y agoOne of those terms I would use in front of my mother. The other I would not.
- seabee 16y agoYou can be thick-skinned without being totally oblivious. Offensive ad hominems further no debate, and they aren't even a skilful way of showing emotion. I wouldn't put up with it if that's all I got. However, some people can't take it when people (rightly) tear them a new one for some flawed point they make. Hell, some people get ultra-defensive at light criticism. There's a spectrum of skinned-ness, and I wouldn't define thick-skinned as accepting obscene idiots gracefully.
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- msuster 16y agoThese same people on a bad day wouldn't likely say FU to my face. They would argue with me and I would listen. But verbal insults of this type are usually encouraged by anonymity where people feel brave using this language with no attribution.