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Don't forget, you have to use half of that vacation time to go to the dentist, doctor, car repair, visit your dying grandmother, funerals, taking care of kids w

by Ascetik 10y ago

Don't forget, you have to use half of that vacation time to go to the dentist, doctor, car repair, visit your dying grandmother, funerals, taking care of kids while your wife is sick, etc... Yes, 2-3 weeks is total trash. Employers just view us as cogs in the wheel, not as human beings with human needs anymore. You get punished for having to take time to do personal things. It is completely maniacal. I had to use 1 week of my 2 weeks PTO to go support my wife having a child in the hospital. It was complete BS. I was so angry at my boss, furiously angry that he would treat me and my family with such utter disrespect as to take away my hard-earned vacation time simply because my wife needed my support. Paternity leave? What's that?

noxToken 10y ago
US based only: I know it's not PTO, but there are certain qualifying events that allow you to take extended leave from work without repercussion. It includes childbirth and medical conditions where a family member needs care. It's the Family Medical Leave Act[0]. The shitty part is that it's unpaid, so if you can't afford to take 1/2/3 month(s) of absence without pay, it's useless to you. [0]: https://www.dol.gov/general/topic/benefits-leave/fmla https://www.dol.gov/general/topic/benefits-leave/fmla
- Ascetik 10y ago
  >and work at a location where the company employs 50 or more employees within 75 miles Well, I work for a small MSP, so... unfortunately the government screwed me. Surprise, surprise. Either way, unpaid paternity leave is still ridiculous, no other country in the world does that that I'm aware of.
- thinkmassive 10y ago
  In many states employment is "at will" for both parties (employee & employer). I suspect that companies/managers who refuse any work-from-home and require you to use PTO for those dental visits would find a way to terminate employees soon after they return from FMLA.
- 8_hours_ago 10y ago
  I don't know about other states, but California provides up to 6 weeks of Paid Family Leave. "Benefit amounts range from $50 to $1,173 per week and represent about 55 percent of your previous weekly earnings (maximum reimbursement amount is $1,173 per week)." http://edd.ca.gov/Disability/About_PFL.htm http://edd.ca.gov/Disability/About_PFL.htm I wish it were longer, and I wish it paid more, and I wish it were federal, but it's better than nothing.
- kej 10y ago
  The FMLA also allows your employer to require you to use PTO before unpaid leave, so you don't have the option to save your PTO for an actual vacation after your medical leave.
cb21 10y ago
It sucks at college too. Get sick for a week? You missed a few lectures that you now need to get notes for from someone, maybe missed a test that you have to schedule a make-up for with your professor, probably missed a TA help session that makes the upcoming assignment comprehensible, etc. All that times the 3-6 classes you're taking, good luck ever getting caught up. You get more time off as a student, but it's not really as flexible. So much of our society punishes you for illness, and it's sad.
- p1esk 10y ago
  So, what do you propose?
  - cb21 10y ago
    I think about this all the time, haha. I think right now my ideal higher education solution would be somewhere where all of the resources you need are online and you can go at your own pace, so if you need to take time off it's no big deal. Then you have a central location where your fellow students and professors/TAs/experts/whatever are there to help you learn and answer questions, not to lecture to a huge room where 75% of the people are on their phones.
    - p1esk 10y ago
      Sounds like Coursera or Udacity!
VLM 10y ago
The level of punishment varies a lot by employer and role. I only worked for a very short time for a guy like that, who was, well, basically crazy and hated his wife and assumed everyone else hated their wives too. On the other hand most employers are pretty chill WRT the G-Grand-Ops post if you answer your phone for emergency calls once in awhile, then going to the dentist once in awhile during the day is simply handwaved away. Home with a sick kid is handwaved away as "VPN working from home day". Another interesting strategy if working outside "tech" is to work for an employer with a union, I'm not in the bargaining unit and I'm on salary and if my results and goal metrics are good there is literally no comment to make WRT car repair appointments or something. I'm not on the union timeclock, I have written defined long term goals and metrics, and where I'm sitting at precisely 3:35pm on Tuesday is definitely not one of them. Obviously life is different in ops or hell desk which often has an abusive call center like atmosphere.
Paul-ish 10y ago
Let me play devils advocate. Having a kid is a choice isn't it? Why should someone get more time for their elective activities than someone else? Should smokers get extra breaks to smoke that others don't get? Rather than paternity leave, why not more general leave for everyone?
- st3v3r 10y ago
  I'm sorry, but that is an extremely shitty position to take.
  - logfromblammo 10y ago
    I was thinking that things like parental leave and bereavement leave generally don't happen during the same era of your life. Why couldn't they fall into a more generalized category of leave? Unless your parents were heavy smokers, and you are the youngest of many siblings, you're probably going to take parental leave for all your kids before taking bereavement leave for either parent. If you base the leave on some kind of verifiable qualifying event, the accounting would probably be satisfied by the company paying premiums to an insurer. So you could give people time off whenever they are likely to be very distracted from work. It doesn't just have to be because a crying baby is making an ordinary sleep schedule impossible. Jury duty with sequestration could be distracting. A tornado or house fire might be a bit stressful. Having your car totaled might be worth a few days off to sort out the crisis during regular business hours. I'm not really very personally invested in parental leave any more, now that I think maybe I won't have to change any more diapers until the first grandchild. But I can think of all kinds of hypothetical circumstances beyond my direct control that might cause me to take some PTO here and there, which can easily chisel away the amount of actual vacation I can take, until I'm down to maybe extending a 3-day [holiday] weekend into 5 consecutive days away from work, and then not getting sick for the next 3 months. That's not the kind of leave that reverses burnout. Alternately, maybe just flush the PTO experiment into the toilet of history, reinstitute sick leave and true vacation, and give people enough of each that they can absorb those life events that eventually happen to everyone.
    - 10y ago
madengr 10y ago
I finally have 5 weeks vacation after 21 years at the same place. Though my elementary school-age kids have 30 days off, not counting Xmas vacation. That's 30 days of teacher service, gov holidays (I don't get), etc. So even 5 weeks does not allow us to actually go on a vacation. When I hired on, I was told that using more than 3 days for sick leave would get you fired.
cookiecaper 10y ago
First, I live in the US. I get 5 days of paternity leave. I get 3 weeks of PTO separate from that. My company is considerate but there are definitely companies with better packages than mine. Look around if you're unhappy. Second, from the perspective of the employer, why should he be punished and forced to pay for these things? He's paying you for your labor, that's the exchange that's been set up. He's not your patron and he hasn't pledged to care for you for the rest of your life. He gets no value when you are not working. What is he paying for, and on what basis should the government compel him to do that? PTO is a perk, not a right. You are not entitled to your employer's money. That's not to say you shouldn't find an employer who will give that perk, but there's no reason the law should compel him to do so (other than the convenience of the employee).

by Ascetik 10y ago

noxToken 10y ago

US based only: I know it's not PTO, but there are certain qualifying events that allow you to take extended leave from work without repercussion. It includes childbirth and medical conditions where a family member needs care. It's the Family Medical Leave Act[0]. The shitty part is that it's unpaid, so if you can't afford to take 1/2/3 month(s) of absence without pay, it's useless to you. [0]: https://www.dol.gov/general/topic/benefits-leave/fmla https://www.dol.gov/general/topic/benefits-leave/fmla

Ascetik 10y ago
>and work at a location where the company employs 50 or more employees within 75 miles Well, I work for a small MSP, so... unfortunately the government screwed me. Surprise, surprise. Either way, unpaid paternity leave is still ridiculous, no other country in the world does that that I'm aware of.
thinkmassive 10y ago
In many states employment is "at will" for both parties (employee & employer). I suspect that companies/managers who refuse any work-from-home and require you to use PTO for those dental visits would find a way to terminate employees soon after they return from FMLA.
8_hours_ago 10y ago
I don't know about other states, but California provides up to 6 weeks of Paid Family Leave. "Benefit amounts range from $50 to $1,173 per week and represent about 55 percent of your previous weekly earnings (maximum reimbursement amount is $1,173 per week)." http://edd.ca.gov/Disability/About_PFL.htm http://edd.ca.gov/Disability/About_PFL.htm I wish it were longer, and I wish it paid more, and I wish it were federal, but it's better than nothing.
kej 10y ago
The FMLA also allows your employer to require you to use PTO before unpaid leave, so you don't have the option to save your PTO for an actual vacation after your medical leave.

cb21 10y ago

It sucks at college too. Get sick for a week? You missed a few lectures that you now need to get notes for from someone, maybe missed a test that you have to schedule a make-up for with your professor, probably missed a TA help session that makes the upcoming assignment comprehensible, etc. All that times the 3-6 classes you're taking, good luck ever getting caught up. You get more time off as a student, but it's not really as flexible. So much of our society punishes you for illness, and it's sad.

p1esk 10y ago
So, what do you propose?
- cb21 10y ago
  I think about this all the time, haha. I think right now my ideal higher education solution would be somewhere where all of the resources you need are online and you can go at your own pace, so if you need to take time off it's no big deal. Then you have a central location where your fellow students and professors/TAs/experts/whatever are there to help you learn and answer questions, not to lecture to a huge room where 75% of the people are on their phones.
  - p1esk 10y ago
    Sounds like Coursera or Udacity!

VLM 10y ago

The level of punishment varies a lot by employer and role. I only worked for a very short time for a guy like that, who was, well, basically crazy and hated his wife and assumed everyone else hated their wives too. On the other hand most employers are pretty chill WRT the G-Grand-Ops post if you answer your phone for emergency calls once in awhile, then going to the dentist once in awhile during the day is simply handwaved away. Home with a sick kid is handwaved away as "VPN working from home day". Another interesting strategy if working outside "tech" is to work for an employer with a union, I'm not in the bargaining unit and I'm on salary and if my results and goal metrics are good there is literally no comment to make WRT car repair appointments or something. I'm not on the union timeclock, I have written defined long term goals and metrics, and where I'm sitting at precisely 3:35pm on Tuesday is definitely not one of them. Obviously life is different in ops or hell desk which often has an abusive call center like atmosphere.

Paul-ish 10y ago

Let me play devils advocate. Having a kid is a choice isn't it? Why should someone get more time for their elective activities than someone else? Should smokers get extra breaks to smoke that others don't get? Rather than paternity leave, why not more general leave for everyone?

st3v3r 10y ago
I'm sorry, but that is an extremely shitty position to take.
- logfromblammo 10y ago
  I was thinking that things like parental leave and bereavement leave generally don't happen during the same era of your life. Why couldn't they fall into a more generalized category of leave? Unless your parents were heavy smokers, and you are the youngest of many siblings, you're probably going to take parental leave for all your kids before taking bereavement leave for either parent. If you base the leave on some kind of verifiable qualifying event, the accounting would probably be satisfied by the company paying premiums to an insurer. So you could give people time off whenever they are likely to be very distracted from work. It doesn't just have to be because a crying baby is making an ordinary sleep schedule impossible. Jury duty with sequestration could be distracting. A tornado or house fire might be a bit stressful. Having your car totaled might be worth a few days off to sort out the crisis during regular business hours. I'm not really very personally invested in parental leave any more, now that I think maybe I won't have to change any more diapers until the first grandchild. But I can think of all kinds of hypothetical circumstances beyond my direct control that might cause me to take some PTO here and there, which can easily chisel away the amount of actual vacation I can take, until I'm down to maybe extending a 3-day [holiday] weekend into 5 consecutive days away from work, and then not getting sick for the next 3 months. That's not the kind of leave that reverses burnout. Alternately, maybe just flush the PTO experiment into the toilet of history, reinstitute sick leave and true vacation, and give people enough of each that they can absorb those life events that eventually happen to everyone.
  - 10y ago

madengr 10y ago

I finally have 5 weeks vacation after 21 years at the same place. Though my elementary school-age kids have 30 days off, not counting Xmas vacation. That's 30 days of teacher service, gov holidays (I don't get), etc. So even 5 weeks does not allow us to actually go on a vacation. When I hired on, I was told that using more than 3 days for sick leave would get you fired.

cookiecaper 10y ago

First, I live in the US. I get 5 days of paternity leave. I get 3 weeks of PTO separate from that. My company is considerate but there are definitely companies with better packages than mine. Look around if you're unhappy. Second, from the perspective of the employer, why should he be punished and forced to pay for these things? He's paying you for your labor, that's the exchange that's been set up. He's not your patron and he hasn't pledged to care for you for the rest of your life. He gets no value when you are not working. What is he paying for, and on what basis should the government compel him to do that? PTO is a perk, not a right. You are not entitled to your employer's money. That's not to say you shouldn't find an employer who will give that perk, but there's no reason the law should compel him to do so (other than the convenience of the employee).