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Thank God I'm not the only guy that wears sunscreen! I've shared the same opinion as you for most of my life. I really got a strong dose of truth in highschool

Thank God I'm not the only guy that wears sunscreen! I've shared the same opinion as you for most of my life. I really got a strong dose of truth in highschool. I got tired of getting picked on and being out of shape in freshman year. I was a loner and a punching bag for kids having a bad day. I started exercising to stop people from bothering me. I still kept to myself and maintained my outsider status at first, but it didn't last long. The swimming and wrestling coaches wouldn't leave me alone by junior year, and soon after they noticed everyone else did to. The attention I got from being in shape and attractive was extreme and foreign to me. There was maybe a year lag time that I associate with everyone consciously forgetting who I used to to be. After that, shit got real. I started getting attention from the popular kids even though I maintained my "loner" friends. I suddenly had several groups of friends that didn't want to be seen around each other. I was asked to join several sports, and in my senior year I gave in. Once I broke through to sports my popularity was official, and I started getting invites to the richest most popular people's parties. The craziest part of the attention was the girls. I got groped by women all the time. Women would openly comment on how attractive I was fairly often. Sometimes women in public would catcall me. My mom's friends would openly try to set me up with their daughters. On more than one occasion while drinking, girls I knew but had never touched would literally jump on me and start making out. And before you think I'm too much of a douchebag, I'm overweight and rather old now. A lot of people will say "it's all confidence" but I'm just as confident as I ever was. Now that I'm not attractive and older it's just called "disgruntled". It's hard to tell anyone that has been attractive that attractiveness is not important. I've seen it for myself.

bardworx 10y ago
Ahh dude, you were sooo close but missed the point entirely. Issue with being attractive in HS is it's cheap. You may actually be disgruntled because you sorta miss the "old you". Problem with this whole post is that your attractiveness didn't permeate to the core of your person. I also had a similar story as you, except when I joined the football team and hung out with the cool kids, I didn't give a shit what anyone said about my old friends and went back to hang out with them. They were good people and their company never accompanied snide remarks about your choice of clothing, music, etc. One thing I've learned is being the cool guy give you this amazing ability to actually conversant with many different groups and bring people together. That particular ability will earn you way more social browny points then anything else. It will also make you happy, because people will be happy to see you because of you, not because of how you look or who you hang out with. Just my 2 cents. Who knows, I could be wrong.
- philh 10y ago
  > I started getting attention from the popular kids even though I maintained my "loner" friends. > I also had a similar story as you, except when I joined the football team and hung out with the cool kids, I didn't give a shit what anyone said about my old friends and went back to hang out with them. I'm not sure what you think you did differently to OP.
saiya-jin 10y ago
all the girls I had discussion with, strongly abhorred Arnie-types (not even that extreme, just more muscular builds, aka "all are braindead and on steroids and goknowswhat"). yet when approached in a bar/anywhere outside of work, they melt very quickly, even the very clever and successful ones. I am not talking about brainless guys who couldn't do a first-grader math homework now, but a normal common guy, just add some extra muscles on him. been there, still there more or less, but engaged now so this gets kind of annoying if anything. And I am not that muscular anyway. I can't recommend this enough for any guy looking to step up his game - getting stronger will make you happier about yourself, more confident, your posture gets better and so on. All this adds up, all is visible and communicated non-verbally 24h a day. main thing is - don't do this to get some specific girl. do it for yourself. girls, and better life will come as a consequence. and to not be sexist - this is very much true for the girls too, just don't overdo it. fit is sexy.

bardworx 10y ago

Ahh dude, you were sooo close but missed the point entirely. Issue with being attractive in HS is it's cheap. You may actually be disgruntled because you sorta miss the "old you". Problem with this whole post is that your attractiveness didn't permeate to the core of your person. I also had a similar story as you, except when I joined the football team and hung out with the cool kids, I didn't give a shit what anyone said about my old friends and went back to hang out with them. They were good people and their company never accompanied snide remarks about your choice of clothing, music, etc. One thing I've learned is being the cool guy give you this amazing ability to actually conversant with many different groups and bring people together. That particular ability will earn you way more social browny points then anything else. It will also make you happy, because people will be happy to see you because of you, not because of how you look or who you hang out with. Just my 2 cents. Who knows, I could be wrong.

philh 10y ago
> I started getting attention from the popular kids even though I maintained my "loner" friends. > I also had a similar story as you, except when I joined the football team and hung out with the cool kids, I didn't give a shit what anyone said about my old friends and went back to hang out with them. I'm not sure what you think you did differently to OP.

saiya-jin 10y ago

all the girls I had discussion with, strongly abhorred Arnie-types (not even that extreme, just more muscular builds, aka "all are braindead and on steroids and goknowswhat"). yet when approached in a bar/anywhere outside of work, they melt very quickly, even the very clever and successful ones. I am not talking about brainless guys who couldn't do a first-grader math homework now, but a normal common guy, just add some extra muscles on him. been there, still there more or less, but engaged now so this gets kind of annoying if anything. And I am not that muscular anyway. I can't recommend this enough for any guy looking to step up his game - getting stronger will make you happier about yourself, more confident, your posture gets better and so on. All this adds up, all is visible and communicated non-verbally 24h a day. main thing is - don't do this to get some specific girl. do it for yourself. girls, and better life will come as a consequence. and to not be sexist - this is very much true for the girls too, just don't overdo it. fit is sexy.