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Attractive is not physical appearance or good looks. Attractive is a culmination of all the factors that can be observed or known that will give a positive impr

Attractive is not physical appearance or good looks. Attractive is a culmination of all the factors that can be observed or known that will give a positive impression. It is usually much more important to carry yourself as attractive than to be beautiful. Confidence, honesty, friendliness, integrity, etc all can be assumed by a picture of a beautiful person, but in practice it's body language that portrays these qualities better. In addition, things like humor and other tips in the article can control someone's impression much more than looks. Make yourself hot if you want. But if you're still insecure or unhappy inside, it's going to come off as unattractive. (Unless you then act more alpha as a defense mechanism to this... Behavior is complicated)

xor1 10y ago
>But if you're still insecure or unhappy inside, it's going to come off as unattractive. What makes you think that I'm insecure or unhappy to begin with? I see this as an investment in myself.
- scrollaway 10y ago
  I certainly didn't think you were either, but now you took what was pretty clearly a generic statement as a personal one and I can't help but rethink that.
  - xor1 10y ago
    I don't see how you think that it wasn't personal given the preceding sentence.
ThrustVectoring 10y ago
Yeah, how you carry yourself is a huge part of it. A year of dancing is worth at least a standard deviation of attractiveness, IMO. And in terms of speech, I think it's much more how you say it than what you say.
m_fayer 10y ago
Absolutely. A face will change in subjective attractiveness depending on the mental temperature of it's owner. Benevolence, tranquility, conspiratorial crackling wit, real empathy - seeing these on people's faces makes them immensely attractive. And both your personality and your face get used to these mental dispositions and settle into them. So eventually we all get the face we deserve.
agumonkey 10y ago
Some people have charisma even in trunks, hair undone, etc etc

xor1 10y ago

>But if you're still insecure or unhappy inside, it's going to come off as unattractive. What makes you think that I'm insecure or unhappy to begin with? I see this as an investment in myself.

scrollaway 10y ago
I certainly didn't think you were either, but now you took what was pretty clearly a generic statement as a personal one and I can't help but rethink that.
- xor1 10y ago
  I don't see how you think that it wasn't personal given the preceding sentence.

ThrustVectoring 10y ago

Yeah, how you carry yourself is a huge part of it. A year of dancing is worth at least a standard deviation of attractiveness, IMO. And in terms of speech, I think it's much more how you say it than what you say.

m_fayer 10y ago

Absolutely. A face will change in subjective attractiveness depending on the mental temperature of it's owner. Benevolence, tranquility, conspiratorial crackling wit, real empathy - seeing these on people's faces makes them immensely attractive. And both your personality and your face get used to these mental dispositions and settle into them. So eventually we all get the face we deserve.

agumonkey 10y ago

Some people have charisma even in trunks, hair undone, etc etc