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If you believe that only enlightened bureaucrats can properly make family decisions, and parents are incapable of doing so, that may indeed be good policy. It

If you believe that only enlightened bureaucrats can properly make family decisions, and parents are incapable of doing so, that may indeed be good policy. It may not surprise you that I would prefer to make my own choices.

TheOtherHobbes 10y ago
Plenty of people want to make their own choices, but corporate culture imposes choices on them. That does indeed make parents incapable of making family decisions. Your mistake is in assuming that the legislation targets individuals. It doesn't. It targets corporations that take advantage of individuals.
- yummyfajitas 10y ago
  Corporate culture merely provides a choice. You can always quit your job if you dislike the choice offered. Legislation does target individuals; it forbids me from choosing money over time. As a person with no desire to stay home for long periods, this directly harms me.
  - icebraining 10y ago
    How does it forbid you? The law doesn't force you to take that time; it merely doesn't allow your partner to take it on your behalf.
    - yummyfajitas 10y ago
      I am not permitted to enter into a "more money, less leave" contract with a willing employer.
      - icebraining 10y ago
        Right, but that's unrelated to the efforts to get men to take up more leave (increasing the "use it or lose it" for men), since even if the time was all usable by the mother, you couldn't enter into a contract renouncing it either. So I don't see how it's germane to the point you introduced earlier.
      - kaitai 10y ago
        Women (fortunately or unfortunately) are not permitted these contracts either. It's not possible to promise chastity or childlessness or plead hysterectomy and get more money; the actual condition of one's reproductive equipment or desires is ignored and instead a broad bias ("she might leave!") is applied to all.
      - emodendroket 10y ago
        Yes, but fundamentally you don't understand the premises your interlocutors are starting from. Essentially, the view you're encountering is that a certain amount of vacation, parental leave, and related benefits are an intrinsic good and that nobody should be forced to choose between their career and, for instance, taking paternity leave. To someone with that view talking about losing the "choice" to forego these benefits for the sake of your career is pointless in much the same way it'd be pointless for me to appeal to the Bible in an ethical debate with an atheist.
  - gmac 10y ago
    You can always quit your job if you dislike the choice offered. Right, and find a job with completely different terms, which, uh, very likely doesn't exist. This kind of "everything's a choice" BS really bugs me. There are plenty of situations where regulation is the only solution, and I suspect this is one of them. Since employers use willingness to work long hours as a signal of commitment/productivity, very few people get the choice to work shorter hours, even if almost everybody would be happier that way.
  - mcguire 10y ago
    And you can always get another job during the time you are on leave.

TheOtherHobbes 10y ago

Plenty of people want to make their own choices, but corporate culture imposes choices on them. That does indeed make parents incapable of making family decisions. Your mistake is in assuming that the legislation targets individuals. It doesn't. It targets corporations that take advantage of individuals.

yummyfajitas 10y ago
Corporate culture merely provides a choice. You can always quit your job if you dislike the choice offered. Legislation does target individuals; it forbids me from choosing money over time. As a person with no desire to stay home for long periods, this directly harms me.
- icebraining 10y ago
  How does it forbid you? The law doesn't force you to take that time; it merely doesn't allow your partner to take it on your behalf.
  - yummyfajitas 10y ago
    I am not permitted to enter into a "more money, less leave" contract with a willing employer.
    - icebraining 10y ago
      Right, but that's unrelated to the efforts to get men to take up more leave (increasing the "use it or lose it" for men), since even if the time was all usable by the mother, you couldn't enter into a contract renouncing it either. So I don't see how it's germane to the point you introduced earlier.
    - kaitai 10y ago
      Women (fortunately or unfortunately) are not permitted these contracts either. It's not possible to promise chastity or childlessness or plead hysterectomy and get more money; the actual condition of one's reproductive equipment or desires is ignored and instead a broad bias ("she might leave!") is applied to all.
    - emodendroket 10y ago
      Yes, but fundamentally you don't understand the premises your interlocutors are starting from. Essentially, the view you're encountering is that a certain amount of vacation, parental leave, and related benefits are an intrinsic good and that nobody should be forced to choose between their career and, for instance, taking paternity leave. To someone with that view talking about losing the "choice" to forego these benefits for the sake of your career is pointless in much the same way it'd be pointless for me to appeal to the Bible in an ethical debate with an atheist.
- gmac 10y ago
  You can always quit your job if you dislike the choice offered. Right, and find a job with completely different terms, which, uh, very likely doesn't exist. This kind of "everything's a choice" BS really bugs me. There are plenty of situations where regulation is the only solution, and I suspect this is one of them. Since employers use willingness to work long hours as a signal of commitment/productivity, very few people get the choice to work shorter hours, even if almost everybody would be happier that way.
- mcguire 10y ago
  And you can always get another job during the time you are on leave.