> If there is no joy in what you are saying [...] why are you saying it? In addition to my other comment, I think the "only say positive things to someone" att

> If there is no joy in what you are saying [...] why are you saying it? In addition to my other comment, I think the "only say positive things to someone" attitude is dangerous. I think it can be really damaging to someone if they grow up always only hearing positive things about themselves. It can lead them to be very egotistical and somewhat delusional -- they're great! they've always been told so! -- and unable to handle any form of criticism. And because they haven't received criticism they haven't been able to grow and develop as much as they could have, which can lead to incompetence.