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Nope, I don't. But when I think that there's people living through the horror of wars, and then read about somebody who can't cope with three weeks at his mothe
by Udik 10y ago
Nope, I don't. But when I think that there's people living through the horror of wars, and then read about somebody who can't cope with three weeks at his mother's and his child crying because daddy isn't at home, and then, quite openly, asking for more money- well, I get some sort of bad reaction.
Ah, and just to get some more downvotes- this guy is supposed to be helping troubled teenagers. But he doesn't seem to be able to cope with three weeks of fear and uncertainty.
- fuckoffmate 10y agoComplete ignoring the social aspect in your comments so far
- emodendroket 10y agoPresumably the biggest damage is being made a social pariah because everyone you know thinks you're distributing child pornography.
- dkersten 10y agoJournalists also have a tendency to report on these things causing all kinds of damage and then rarely retract their statements. Even if they do retract them, the damage is done. The guy will always be known as a pedo by people who read the story, regardless of how untrue it was.
- emodendroket 10y agoEven if they posted a front page story saying you were exonerated that cloud would probably hang over you forever.
- washadjeffmad 10y agoPublic support is a factor. No one tells the wrongly accused that they are heroes and thanks them for their enduring fight against injustice. Obversely, I know people who wear their military uniforms off duty when they're feeling under-appreciated and want a little recognition, most of whom have never been involved in combat. I've known guys who came home from Camp Buehring who described their biggest problem having to choose between steak and lobster each night. Do you think they correct anyone who thanks them for their service? Control is another. Becoming known as a pedo because the police wrongly arrested you on suspicion of it is pretty out of one's hands. You don't just say, "Sorry, you have the wrong person, I'll be leaving now" and walk out, and you'd be lucky if the news spends the weeks following report of your exculpation saying anything similar to "where there's smoke there's not necessarily fire". And you could be locked up through your trial and beyond if the system fails and your family turn their backs on you. No one knows for certain how long something like that can last. If you were in that circumstance, you'd have to weigh the very real possibility of never getting to watch your child grow up or play a part in their life, of having them suffer outside of their control because of you, and the possibility that they will grow up to have doubts about you because of how others responded. You might never get to know your child, and they might never get to know you, and they might decide they don't want to. And troubled teens need someone they can trust and rely on, not someone they think is only trying to help them because they're secretly trying to take advantage. Think of all the people this guy might have helped or interacted with who suddenly got accused of being molested or having sex for help by other kids. Hurting the people you want to help is pretty close to a worst nightmare for someone in that position. Coming up with these points was a pretty basic exercise in empathy.
- lapsock 10y agoStop posting dude. Just stop. >there's people living through the horror of wars, You serious? That's the "there's children starving in africa" argument.
- Udik 10y agoYes dear. There's people who have been starving that can live a normal and fulfilling life, and there's people that claim that their lives have been broken forever because they skipped a couple of meals. I gauge my sympathies accordingly, and so I think should do others. Goodbye.
- chris_wot 10y agoPlease stop posting. Seriously.