I believe you misread, I did not say it wasn't possible, in fact I explicitly allowed that is possible. The claim is that in general they are forces at odds an

I believe you misread, I did not say it wasn't possible, in fact I explicitly allowed that is possible. The claim is that in general they are forces at odds and in most of those situations in takes more energy to project confidence or assertiveness. However I am glad you were able to be strong for your aunt.