I definitely fall in the less than average response rate category. Probably closer to 30/1 for a message response and worse for getting a date. 30 well crafted

I definitely fall in the less than average response rate category. Probably closer to 30/1 for a message response and worse for getting a date. 30 well crafted messages takes a lot of effort. The women that respond to me and progress towards a date are usually the ones that I am least interested in. In cold terms, the effort to result ratio makes online dating practically useless for me. I don't blame the women as I expect that the ones I would most like to date get a lot of messages. The ones that are willing to progress with me I expect get less, to put it politely. At a certain point I make the cut and I just don't like that point. I suggest everyone reading the advice of people here that says "Here's how I get ~25% of my messages read and end up with 2-3 dates per week" ignore the well-meaning advice and instead read Malcom Gladwell's article "The New-Boy Network" [0]. What applies to jobs in the essay applies to women in online dating. [0] http://gladwell.com/the-new-boy-network/ http://gladwell.com/the-new-boy-network/