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I would venture to guess that many "higher quality" women have less trouble finding partners irl. They don't need to use online dating.

peteretep 10y ago
> women have less trouble finding > partners irl Sexual partners? No trouble at all. Life partners? Much trickier. Men have the sexual discernment of rabbits, but are pretty choosy about who they're willing to actually commit to. There's a non-trivial proportion of men who are only in their current relationships for easy access to sex. Men complain to their friends about not being able to get laid, women complain to their friends about not being able to find a good man. Women complain that men don't want to be "just friends", men complain that women want commitment they're not willing to give yet.
- overcast 10y ago
  fyi. There is no such thing as guys, and girls being friends. I know women think they have guy friends, but those are just guys that want to have sex with them. Consider this next time a female questions this line of thought. Would their best guy friend turn them down for sex, with the response of "I don't want to ruin our friendship", of course not.
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  - wallace_f 10y ago
    I am a man that has a lot of friends who are women that I don't have sexual interest with. Especially true with older female friends. One of my old professors... She's pretty old and that'd just be gross and weird. I think you're limiting yourself to productive relationships with only half the world's population.
    - pmoriarty 10y ago
      I also have had many female friends who I didn't want to have sex with. Sometimes it's been because I didn't want to ruin our friendship, other times because I simply wasn't attracted to them, and yet still other times because I thought it just wouldn't work out between us and didn't want just a one-night-stand.
    - overcast 10y ago
      Sure, and in that case, you A. Don't find them attractive. B. That is not your sexual orientation. C. You're already with someone much higher on your list. My point here is, an attractive female with a lot of guy "friends", are not her friends, because she has a good personality. That's just a fact of life, no matter what anecdotes you present.
  - bdamm 10y ago
    This view likely means that, as a man, you have some work to do to find your moral base. I know this because I've been there. You don't have to go through life objectifying all women. Seek help. Good luck.
    - peteretep 10y ago
      Calling people immoral for their sexuality is a fast road to nowhere good. It seems more likely your testosterone levels have dropped.
      - sidlls 10y ago
        Sexuality is not a synonym for sexism or for sexual objectification.
- pmoriarty 10y ago
  If a guy can't even get laid, he's going to have a lot of trouble finding a partner for life. Women, on the other hand, usually have little trouble in at least meeting and dating prospective partners. That critical first step is a lot harder for many men.
throwaway91111 10y ago
Isn't this true of men as well?
wallace_f 10y ago
But wouldn't that mean the quality of men would be relatively higher then?

peteretep 10y ago

> women have less trouble finding > partners irl Sexual partners? No trouble at all. Life partners? Much trickier. Men have the sexual discernment of rabbits, but are pretty choosy about who they're willing to actually commit to. There's a non-trivial proportion of men who are only in their current relationships for easy access to sex. Men complain to their friends about not being able to get laid, women complain to their friends about not being able to find a good man. Women complain that men don't want to be "just friends", men complain that women want commitment they're not willing to give yet.

overcast 10y ago
fyi. There is no such thing as guys, and girls being friends. I know women think they have guy friends, but those are just guys that want to have sex with them. Consider this next time a female questions this line of thought. Would their best guy friend turn them down for sex, with the response of "I don't want to ruin our friendship", of course not.
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- wallace_f 10y ago
  I am a man that has a lot of friends who are women that I don't have sexual interest with. Especially true with older female friends. One of my old professors... She's pretty old and that'd just be gross and weird. I think you're limiting yourself to productive relationships with only half the world's population.
  - pmoriarty 10y ago
    I also have had many female friends who I didn't want to have sex with. Sometimes it's been because I didn't want to ruin our friendship, other times because I simply wasn't attracted to them, and yet still other times because I thought it just wouldn't work out between us and didn't want just a one-night-stand.
  - overcast 10y ago
    Sure, and in that case, you A. Don't find them attractive. B. That is not your sexual orientation. C. You're already with someone much higher on your list. My point here is, an attractive female with a lot of guy "friends", are not her friends, because she has a good personality. That's just a fact of life, no matter what anecdotes you present.
- bdamm 10y ago
  This view likely means that, as a man, you have some work to do to find your moral base. I know this because I've been there. You don't have to go through life objectifying all women. Seek help. Good luck.
  - peteretep 10y ago
    Calling people immoral for their sexuality is a fast road to nowhere good. It seems more likely your testosterone levels have dropped.
    - sidlls 10y ago
      Sexuality is not a synonym for sexism or for sexual objectification.
pmoriarty 10y ago
If a guy can't even get laid, he's going to have a lot of trouble finding a partner for life. Women, on the other hand, usually have little trouble in at least meeting and dating prospective partners. That critical first step is a lot harder for many men.

throwaway91111 10y ago

Isn't this true of men as well?

wallace_f 10y ago

But wouldn't that mean the quality of men would be relatively higher then?