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Pre-facing this with: "What? I was just being honest!" Skimming this thread, and especially reading this comment, it all seems so absurd. Does this post reall
by stagbeetle 10y ago
Pre-facing this with: "What? I was just being honest!"
Skimming this thread, and especially reading this comment, it all seems so absurd.
Does this post really reflect how you operate on a day to day basis? By over-analyzing social interactions and figuring out their "rules."
> "I want them to like me. Should I be like this? Should I be like that?"
Have you not learned this already? Has nobody learned to deal with themselves that they seriously contemplate this article and the shallow "be yourself" advice?
The phrase, as it's most commonly used, is likely to be perfect for extroverts. I'm an extrovert, with many extrovert friends, and this is perfect advice for me and my friends. "Don't care what other people think, just do what you want to do and the rest will come." Nothing more. It was not meant to be deconstructed, as it wasn't made by an engineer.
It's not meant for introverts and the anxious. Do not apply it your lives. There are no universal truths for human happiness and behaviour.
- dgreensp 10y agoHeh, I'm exasperated with the author too, but only because they published their absurdities. I don't judge people for having absurdities in their heads. As a semi-anxious person, I've found it is useful to deconstruct this stuff.
- peternilson 10y ago"There are no universal truths for human happiness and behaviour." That's pretty bold statement. We know that there are universal truths to human suffering, and the behavior that can lead to suffering. We see it all the time depicted on the news, or we all experience it at one point or another. Why do you say the same is not true of happiness?
- stagbeetle 10y agoEven suffering is not universal. There are many groups who have overcome their subjective pain and no longer feel it. We don't all suffer (but in the practical sense we do).