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>> OP's Dad certainly knows he is displaying a remarkable lack of initiative when it comes to learning new languages and it sounds like he's manufactured some e
by developer2 10y ago
>> OP's Dad certainly knows he is displaying a remarkable lack of initiative when it comes to learning new languages and it sounds like he's manufactured some excuses to satisfy the family
No, OP's dad is sick and tired of working for an industry that drowns him with its stress, misery, and corporate bullshit. The reason for finding an excuse to give your family is that they are expecting you provide them with a/an (upper?) middle class lifestyle. Screw your happiness and reduced levels of stress; what matters most to them is your paycheque and what it can offer them. For some people, $20+ more per hour is not worth rotting away in a cubicle, while being treated like a replaceable nobody, always being belittled like a child at every review for "not meeting company goals", all the while being part of the very reason the company is making millions of dollars a year. All for what? A white picket fence that ultimately adds no meaning whatsoever to life?
I'm single and turning 32 this year. I'm beyond sick and tired of this industry. I'm constantly put down like a piece of disposable garbage; and yet every time I leave a company, management is freaking out and begging me not to leave because of the success I've brought them. I can't imagine being a dad, with the burden of responsibility that adds. I'd be having my first heart attack before age 40.
- sabalaba 10y agoYou might enjoy moving to Silicon Valley, I can assure you good SWEs are treated much better here than whatever location you're describing. Talented engineers are highly valued and treated as such.
- fapjacks 10y agoHear, hear! Don't want to deal with it? Take off! Companies need us, not the other way around.
- blowski 10y agoI'm a 35 year old Dad, my son is 3 years old. As a developer, I'm extremely well paid, and my working conditions are amazing. Sure I'd like a 500% payrise and a big office of my own, but I'm not going to complain about the wonderful job I already have.
- throw174832 10y agoIs this the general consensus in the Valley ?
- dickbasedregex 10y agoAt 37 and having suffered some truly bad burn out between 33 and 36 I think your view is being colored by your current employment. Lots of places treat code and programmers as a commodity. As soon as one burns out, replace with another. Those are just shitty places to work. What you're describing feels very familiar.
- developer2 10y agoUnfortunately I am Canadian, working in Canada. The vast majority of companies employing developers within Canada's borders are American companies who generate all of their revenue in USD, and then pay $60k-$85k CAD per year to each software developer. Why pay $100-200k USD per year + stock options + 401k + an expensive health care package to an American developer when you can outsource to hard-working Canadians for less than $60k USD - with no stock options, no retirement package, and an extremely cheap benefits package? Also, our federal government reimburses companies a significant portion of our salaries simply for employing us (the "SR&ED" program for research and development, but everyday development is fraudulently claimed as R&D by every company - SR&ED is a scam, where their agents nudge you in meetings to reword your basic web development as somehow qualifying as "R&D"). Developers in Canada are largely taken advantage of. Most of the companies who employ developers here only do so because they are getting 2-4 developers for the price of one they would have to pay to hire locally within the US. So yes, I'm burned out because developers in Canada are treated as nothing more than a cheap alternative. We may as well be India up here.