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From my own experience around this sort of conversation, it doesn't seem like malice to me. I'm a male and I've given this response before when someone asked m
by stagbeetle 10y ago
From my own experience around this sort of conversation, it doesn't seem like malice to me.
I'm a male and I've given this response before when someone asked me "have you read about X?" In turn, they gave a brief background because they weren't aware of the full scope of my knowledge on the subject.
If instead I had said: "Yes, I've worked on many projects involving X and I wrote a dissertation on it," then there would be no need for explanation.
It seems more like inexperience with the other gender and conflating assumptions in the workplace.
- jrs235 10y agoYour scenario sounds okay and reasonable. However, I think the issue was laughing off the affirmative response. Why would you laugh at the response unless you don't believe someone? Did they laugh off your affirmative answer?
- stagbeetle 10y ago> Why would you laugh at the response unless you don't believe someone? It's a way to try and break the awkwardness of just a one-word answer. We can't tell the tone this man had, or how the author perceived that tone, just from the writing, but I like to use Hanlon's razor liberally. I think it's a moot point using only one datum, especially one as subjective as experience, in argument though.