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My advice, fwiw. Do whatever you decide you want to do to "keep up" with github, open source, etc. But keep it absolutely as separate as possible from your fa
by ghettoimp 10y ago
My advice, fwiw.
Do whatever you decide you want to do to "keep up" with github, open source, etc. But keep it absolutely as separate as possible from your family time.
When you have a day with the kid, make sure that you disconnect and get yourself as fully as you can into the right mindset. "My job today is to enjoy my time with my son/daughter, to be there for them, to be present with them." Leave your phone at home when you go to the park. Disconnect.
If you find yourself thinking that your parenting time is an annoying distraction from the coding problem you're trying to solve, you're in dangerous territory and need to re-calibrate.
This is a hard lesson that I constantly try to re-learn. When I'm successful, everything is much, much better.
- OJFord 10y ago> If you find yourself thinking that your parenting time is an annoying distraction from the coding problem you're trying to solve, you're in dangerous territory and need to re-calibrate. I'm not a parent, but surely this is a little off; either can be a distraction from the other, the thing is to balance which the primary task is and when. For example, say you get a phone call at work to inform you that your child's got into some kind of trouble at school (for example - I'm sure yours are great and this will never happen!) and that you need to pick them up. This could absolutely be a distraction from some coding/work problem you're trying to solve, but you're hardly in 'dangerous territory'.