I can second this sentiment somewhat. I've got a different background than you, but I still feel the same a lot of the time, since the "less successful" people

I can second this sentiment somewhat. I've got a different background than you, but I still feel the same a lot of the time, since the "less successful" people don't speak up that much and with all the side projects people seem to have, a bit of a workaholic image of the community is created. I've had times myself where I had to remind myself to live between regular work and (even just small) side projects. Most of the bad things about HN, I'm doing to myself.