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> It's also possible that the woman is just making a rational decision for the well-being of her children. If a single mother cannot provide for her child, she

> It's also possible that the woman is just making a rational decision for the well-being of her children. If a single mother cannot provide for her child, she should have made the more rational decision and not have had a child in the first place.

meric 10y ago
How about a human who never makes irrational decisions is not really human? Rational != superior. Children happens. The article is saying today's environment where work is available to women as well as reduced stigma of bring single mothers make it more feasible to be one. Therefore it can make sense for some women who have children out of wedlock and continue to look for suitable mate. And we can still say they're doing their part to make sure our society have a next generation.
- phkahler 10y ago
  >> Therefore it can make sense for some women who have children out of wedlock and continue to look for suitable mate. That is odd. Isn't the proper mate the one that fathered the child? I mean what man is going to care more about the child? What you're really hinting at is AF/BB.
  - meric 10y ago
    Well if you're going to use the lens of AF/BB... Perhaps the woman thought she could lock down the BB with a pregnancy and thought even if she couldn't she could still go it alone....the father could be "AF" or "BB". So I don't think it's to do with AF/BB.
- FT_intern 10y ago
  > Therefore it can make sense for some women who have children out of wedlock and continue to look for suitable mate. That's the problem really. Making life better for single mothers is unnecessarily increasing the number of children with single parents. It is just treating the symptom. The cause is that mothers who are not ready to raise children bring a pregnancy to term. We can attack this in a two ways: 1. Planned parenthood campaigns that make potential mothers believe that they will not be able to handle adulthood 2. Stigmatizing single motherhood What about the children? The socialized care is already there for them so these incentives shouldn't affect them much.
  - meric 10y ago
    IMO instead of directly manipulating choices, other solutions can be found - lower cost of living, to encourage people to plan to get married and have children, tax incentives for parents living in the same house, and encouraging gender segregation in schools and high schools to prevent teenage pregnancies.

meric 10y ago

How about a human who never makes irrational decisions is not really human? Rational != superior. Children happens. The article is saying today's environment where work is available to women as well as reduced stigma of bring single mothers make it more feasible to be one. Therefore it can make sense for some women who have children out of wedlock and continue to look for suitable mate. And we can still say they're doing their part to make sure our society have a next generation.

phkahler 10y ago
>> Therefore it can make sense for some women who have children out of wedlock and continue to look for suitable mate. That is odd. Isn't the proper mate the one that fathered the child? I mean what man is going to care more about the child? What you're really hinting at is AF/BB.
- meric 10y ago
  Well if you're going to use the lens of AF/BB... Perhaps the woman thought she could lock down the BB with a pregnancy and thought even if she couldn't she could still go it alone....the father could be "AF" or "BB". So I don't think it's to do with AF/BB.
FT_intern 10y ago
> Therefore it can make sense for some women who have children out of wedlock and continue to look for suitable mate. That's the problem really. Making life better for single mothers is unnecessarily increasing the number of children with single parents. It is just treating the symptom. The cause is that mothers who are not ready to raise children bring a pregnancy to term. We can attack this in a two ways: 1. Planned parenthood campaigns that make potential mothers believe that they will not be able to handle adulthood 2. Stigmatizing single motherhood What about the children? The socialized care is already there for them so these incentives shouldn't affect them much.
- meric 10y ago
  IMO instead of directly manipulating choices, other solutions can be found - lower cost of living, to encourage people to plan to get married and have children, tax incentives for parents living in the same house, and encouraging gender segregation in schools and high schools to prevent teenage pregnancies.