No, no I was calling them shit heads for their personality. This idea of a chronically out of work man whose wife leaves him isn't necessarily false, but also t

No, no I was calling them shit heads for their personality. This idea of a chronically out of work man whose wife leaves him isn't necessarily false, but also that it doesn't mean his wife left him because he's chronically out of work but because maybe he's a jerk. My mom and dad were married 30 years and for almost all that time my dad didn't work. She did leave him though, when he developed a meth habit and became delusional. Even though he didn't work, he did raise us kids, he did the shopping, the cleaning, the cooking, he ran the household. In other words he did what should be expected of someone in a genuine partnership: nothing more and nothing less than what he was able to do of what was needed. When he stopped doing that the partnership dissolved. This "women want a higher earner" picture is a bit crude, and applying it to this situation ignores that men are often ass holes who aren't interested in a genuine partnership, and that category has some overlap with the chronically out of work.