Obviously there's more to it than just the home/work life. But that's a big part. I would be AOK with "letting" her stay home, although there's no letting this

Obviously there's more to it than just the home/work life. But that's a big part. I would be AOK with "letting" her stay home, although there's no letting this woman do anything, she does everything for herself just fine, thanks. She decided that she needed to continue her career to achieve her life goals of owning a home, paying for our child's college, those sorts of things. TBH she's probably right, I'm a bit more "anarchy and freedom is what i want" and value my time and agency over money.