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You obviously are not a divorced male with children. The alimony and child support laws were laid down in an era where there was an almost insurmountable financ
by ryanmarsh 10y ago
You obviously are not a divorced male with children. The alimony and child support laws were laid down in an era where there was an almost insurmountable financial disincentive to leave an abusive relationship. Therefore the courts purposefully favor the woman. Divorce is unfair by design. However circumstances have changed so men have some right to complain now.
Two things could change this, the advent of male birth control, and men realizing that legal marriage is an unfair contract.
The former would give men outsized control over when to have a baby and that choice can be made without signaling intent (less obvious than a condom). This is the advantage a woman has now. She can choose when to have a baby without signaling intent, and can even change her mind after the fact.
The latter gives a man no reason to marry a woman much less the beloved mother of his children except to appease her nagging. As female agency increases males will be less and less willing to risk the exposure of legal marriage and children when they will be left footing the bill. A hypergamous wife (AWALT) with equal or more agency than you is a risky proposition.
- sanderjd 10y agoSorry for the meta-comment, but just in case you're interested: I think all the jargon used in this thread is unhelpful to your argument. That I've read this whole thread and still can't quite figure out what "hypergamy" is from context, or exactly how it is "the real problem" signals to me that I'm an outsider of whatever community it is that talks casually about this stuff in these terms. That's probably fine if you're just trying to preach to your choir, but if you would rather not be ignored by someone like me looking in on an unfamiliar situation with curiosity, it isn't very effective.
- ryanmarsh 10y agoI hope this doesn't come off as flippant but you're going to have to Google this one. This is a sub area of what I'll casually refer to as "amateur male sexual competitive philosophy". Terms like hypergamy, AWALT, feminine social primacy, etc. are all symbols of a lot of meaning. You couldn't break each one down and justify its correctness in a single comment here. Nor would you want to.
- watwut 10y agoIf you need stealth birth control, then what you really need is to split up. If you two can not talk openly about having/not having kids, the relationship is going to be hell.