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Even when you try to live for today, things can broadside you. Last year, my wife, age 36, went from the healthiest person I knew to dead in four months from a
by incanus77 10y ago
Even when you try to live for today, things can broadside you.
Last year, my wife, age 36, went from the healthiest person I knew to dead in four months from aggressive pancreatic cancer.
http://justinmiller.io/posts/2016/06/07/writing-move-on/ http://justinmiller.io/posts/2016/06/07/writing-move-on/
These things happen and underscore the frailty in thinking that the present continues on unchecked and is bound by some sort of rule of inertia.
Don't wait; do the things you want to do today.
- pmarreck 10y agoI'm very sorry. I hope you are coping as best you can. Good advice, though. I might add (as I'm going through it right now for the first time at 44 with my hetero domestic partner) to consider writing a last will and testament. Some lawyers' fees attached to it, but a sound thing to have as a contingency. It also forces you to think about your values.
- clort 10y agoThere are several legal documents that it might be wise to create in addition to a will. My sister (an ICU nurse), has been agitating recently for us to think about creating some kind of "advanced healthcare directive"[1] as she sees many cases where lack of this is problematic. My mother (retired, getting older) also wishes to set up an "enduring power of attorney"[2] as another relative had a fair amount of trouble last year due to not having something like this in place before the time of need. [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Advance_healthcare_directive https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Advance_healthcare_directive [2] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enduring_power_of_attorney https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enduring_power_of_attorney
- stevoski 10y agoThis happened to me too, a few years ago, at age 37. It's a nasty, nasty time to live through. I wish you the best, and hope you have some good, supportive people around you.
- mathattack 10y agoOh boy. I am very sorry to hear it.
- baldfat 10y agoSo sorry to hear that. My sister at 15 died of a brain tumor and my son at 12 died of bone cancer. These things are devastating but I appreciate life so much more. Every day is a gift and faith means so much more each and every day.
- post_meridiem 10y agoWow. So sorry to hear. 'baldfat' and 'stevoski' too.
- samirm 10y ago> Don't wait; do the things you want to do today. Terrible general advice, especially for someone younger. The key to life is balance not just one or the other.
- incanus77 10y agoWell, true; it's hard to generalize. But some examples of not putting off things include travel to exotic locales, living overseas, starting a business, or spending extra time with a family member. If the only real thing holding you back is taking the step of actually doing it (which oftentimes is the hardest part), get over that and just pull the trigger. Better than to regret forever that you had the chance and passed it by.