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I personally don't care to discuss the feelings of strangers. It seems silly to do. In this context the feelings of some strangers is really only valuable to

I personally don't care to discuss the feelings of strangers. It seems silly to do. In this context the feelings of some strangers is really only valuable to me if the feelings are justified by data. If there's reasonable evidence that can be shown that the feelings are justified, then I'm happy to get on board to help resolve the issue. If you just want to whine about your feelings, talk to someone who is emotionally close to you.

komali2 10y ago
My black friend and I had a candid conversation about racism once, and he told me something along the lines of: "racism can make you a crazy person. A guy will walk into a room and say hi to everyone but you, and you'll wonder, was that racism? Or maybe that dude just didn't see me? You'll order a sandwich and the white girl behind the counter is flippant, you think, was that racism or was she just having a bad day? She's nice to the next dude in line, maybe they know each other, or is it cause he's white?" Humans are emotional creatures and social science is very much not-so-scientific at times, considering the complexity of the topic. Sometimes all we can do is talk about our feelings.
- Consultant32452 10y ago
  I'm not interested until we get to the point where we, as a culture, are willing to tell people that their feelings are unjustified in sensitive areas. And here I'm talking about general public discussions. If you're emotionally close to someone then of course be empathetic. If you want the general public to listen then you'd better be prepared to put up or shut up with regards to data. If you just want to talk about your feels with no justification whatsoever, there's plenty of platforms out there for fiction writing.
  - komali2 10y ago
    > If you want the general public to listen then you'd better be prepared to put up or shut up with regards to data. How does your argument stand in the Trump era, when a candidate can lie outright but appeal to feelings well enough to be elected president? When republicans can get on TV and say "we're about feelings, not facts"? The reality of the world does not reflect your personal opinion of what the world should be like.
    - Consultant32452 10y ago
      I feel like your argument is self-defeating. When Trump, or whoever, outright lies the response should be, "put up or shut up with regards to data." That it's not that way is a real problem. That this tech site has a creative writing post on the front page is a related problem.
- jbob2000 10y ago
  I have the exact same thoughts as a white guy, but instead of "is it because I'm black?", it's "is it because I'm weird?".

komali2 10y ago

My black friend and I had a candid conversation about racism once, and he told me something along the lines of: "racism can make you a crazy person. A guy will walk into a room and say hi to everyone but you, and you'll wonder, was that racism? Or maybe that dude just didn't see me? You'll order a sandwich and the white girl behind the counter is flippant, you think, was that racism or was she just having a bad day? She's nice to the next dude in line, maybe they know each other, or is it cause he's white?" Humans are emotional creatures and social science is very much not-so-scientific at times, considering the complexity of the topic. Sometimes all we can do is talk about our feelings.

Consultant32452 10y ago
I'm not interested until we get to the point where we, as a culture, are willing to tell people that their feelings are unjustified in sensitive areas. And here I'm talking about general public discussions. If you're emotionally close to someone then of course be empathetic. If you want the general public to listen then you'd better be prepared to put up or shut up with regards to data. If you just want to talk about your feels with no justification whatsoever, there's plenty of platforms out there for fiction writing.
- komali2 10y ago
  > If you want the general public to listen then you'd better be prepared to put up or shut up with regards to data. How does your argument stand in the Trump era, when a candidate can lie outright but appeal to feelings well enough to be elected president? When republicans can get on TV and say "we're about feelings, not facts"? The reality of the world does not reflect your personal opinion of what the world should be like.
  - Consultant32452 10y ago
    I feel like your argument is self-defeating. When Trump, or whoever, outright lies the response should be, "put up or shut up with regards to data." That it's not that way is a real problem. That this tech site has a creative writing post on the front page is a related problem.
jbob2000 10y ago
I have the exact same thoughts as a white guy, but instead of "is it because I'm black?", it's "is it because I'm weird?".