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>I really don't think misogyny or harassment is connected to nerdy-ness or introversion/extroversion, in either direction. I completely disagree. Stereotypica
by Arizhel 10y ago
>I really don't think misogyny or harassment is connected to nerdy-ness or introversion/extroversion, in either direction.
I completely disagree. Stereotypically nerdy, shy, introverted men are not going to be extremely aggressive towards women in social settings; that's why they stereotypically have such a hard time getting dates: they're not even comfortable talking to women. They're certainly not going to be touching them inappropriately, making sexual comments and innuendo, etc. The men that stereotypically do that are like the guys who join frats in college and spend a lot of time in drunken parties. These are not introverts, they're extroverts. These stories about Uber and other such places are not talking about quiet male programmers occasionally talking about something inappropriate at work (like anime porn or something) and being overheard by women, these stories are about managers (and executives) doing grossly inappropriate and harassing things directly to women, usually women they supervise. Shy, nerdy men do not become "high performing" managers (the kind the CEO loves to go drinking with); that's clearly the domain of extroverts.
And yes, every personality type has bad eggs, as there's exceptions for everything, but I'm talking in generalities here.
But also importantly, it's my contention that even the rank-and-file engineers and programmers these days are more like the frat-bro stereotype, so they're not going to be any help, they're part of the problem and why this company culture thrives in Silicon Valley these days.
- xapata 10y agoPeople behave differently in different contexts, to the extent of appearing to have entirely different personalities. You might be surprised at what an otherwise shy, nice person might type in a semi-private chat room.
- dosgonlogs 10y agowhat in the actual? Let's not reinforce dim-witted stereotypes. There are all kinds of people. I have met the Socially Awkward, introverted, nerdy, absolute jerk prick asshole programmer as well. The type that attempts to anonymously create hentai comics of female coworkers. Nerdy men can and do become "High Performing Managers" they just use email more.
- flamedoge 10y agowhat the actual. >anonymously create hentai comics of female coworkers who goes out of their way to do that
- dosgonlogs 10y agoPeople who revel in making other people feel creeped out and violated.