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> Suppose you have a pattern of behavior around me that offends and discomforts me. If I speak out, and complain, and you continue, you are probably being abusi
by iak8god 10y ago
> Suppose you have a pattern of behavior around me that offends and discomforts me. If I speak out, and complain, and you continue, you are probably being abusive (although not necessarily.) On the otherhand, if I make no attempt to express my discomfort in any way (doesnt mean verbal, could be anything), then the fault lies with ME, the supposed victim.
Bullshit. This kind of criticism might occasionally apply when the conduct in question falls into a grey area, or when it's not predictably offensive to literally any adult human with two brain cells to rub together, but that has absolutely nothing to do with the sort of situation described in this article. And you should be ashamed to say such things in a discussion about someone being sexually assaulted in the workplace.
- mememachine 10y ago>Personally, the uber story absolutely did not read that way. The issue is with people in these comments making overly broad claims. From my comment. Again, I specifically addressed this. Did you read my comment?
- xapata 10y agoIf you're not talking about this situation at Uber, then why is your comment relevant? Despite your claim that you're discussing other situations, it seems like you are trying to say the post author is a "victim" rather than a victim.
- mememachine 10y agoI didnt read this one, I read the first one, and in the first they were a victim for sure. If you want to project some ulterior motive onto me, go for it. Don't pretend its got anything to do with what I actually think, though.
- xapata 10y ago"Projecting" is psychological jargon describing the act of ascribing one's own feelings or motivations to another. Since I don't have an ulterior motive, perhaps you are projecting?
- mememachine 10y agorofl ok dude
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