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The difference between you and your wife and the vast majority of these claims is that you weren't creepy about it, and you approached the entanglement with res
by kchoudhu 10y ago
The difference between you and your wife and the vast majority of these claims is that you weren't creepy about it, and you approached the entanglement with respect and a certain amount of humility. I'm sure if your wife had said no, you would have backed right off.
What gets me is the poor judgment on display in all of these cases. Yeah, you did Gwen in HR, good job. I hope you guys blew the roof off the house, because now you get to deal with the entanglements that come with sex in a place you spend most of your waking hours. Are these people truly unable to think that far ahead? If their judgment is so poor in this arena, how am I supposed to trust their judgment in professional matters?
It boggles the mind.
(Also, are you btilly from the xkcd forums? If so, long time no see!)
- btilly 10y agoI am the same btilly. Yes, we dealt with it fairly well. BUT not perfectly. And having gone through the emotional rollercoaster, I cannot fault anyone else for doing it poorly. Particularly (as didn't happen in my case) if the relationship failed to work out. Looking back I can't feel pride in success. Only humility from knowing how lucky I was to avoid disaster. And said humility has taught me to be less quick to judge others as people, while being painfully aware of the importance of being firm with the consequences of their actions.
- jbhatab 10y agoBig problem is here is what is 'creepy'? We would literally need a standard or metric for this to make it enforceable. So many people are different and females have very different bars for what is acceptable for flirting from person to person. I have a personal bar of acceptance in the work force but it's different for every person.