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I have embraced certain aspects of stoic philosophy in my life. In particular I've found The Meditations by Marcus Aurelius to be helpful and practical. I str
by mmmBacon 10y ago
I have embraced certain aspects of stoic philosophy in my life. In particular I've found The Meditations by Marcus Aurelius to be helpful and practical. I struggle with my temper and in the last few years my temper has affected my career growth. These stoic works have helped my get a better grip on things when dealing with especially difficult people. I'm not a person who reads self help books nor am I into cheesy or trendy philosophies. I usually roll my eyes at this stuff. But I have found a framework in stoicism that has helped me overcome some of my limitations and helped me achieve some of my goals.
- vram22 10y agoGreat comment, thanks for sharing.
- greggman 10y agoHave you tried mindfulness? There's at least two books "Search Inside Yourself" and "The Mindfull Geek" that both approach it with science and no spritualism. They claim practice will make it easier to control things like anger
- qntty 10y agoMindfulness is almost by definition spiritual
- sparky_z 10y agoHow can that be true if no one can agree on the definition of the word "spiritual"?
- ArkyBeagle 10y agoIt's dualistic. On the material plane, I read it as "don't be entropic."
- sn9 10y agoAre you sure you and the comment you replied to are using the same definition of "spiritual"?
- meerita 10y agoI will download Meditations right away. It's a pending book to read.
- antman 10y agoA very important book, and especially if someone gets "Meditations: A new translation" by Hays. The translations available online don't explain the context of Aurelius life, and are hard to read.
- specialist 10y agoI too had an anger management problem. I didn't like who I was or how I behaved. I tried every thing, every book, every bit of advice. Most of it terrible. Failure. Part 1: I eventually found quality help, who then recommended I read this: When Anger Hurts http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/278196.When_Anger_Hurts http://www.goodreads.com/book/show/278196.When_Anger_Hurts TL;DR: Anger is a cascade: Expectations, disappointment, resentment, blame and then BOOM anger. The fix to anger is to eliminate your expectations. Part 2: Awareness of the psychology only got me so far. I struggled to change my habits. Recalling that you can only replace a habit, vs unlearn, I decided to pretend to be happy. I would tell people "I'm fantastic! How are you?!" It started out sarcastic, wry. About three years later, I woke up one day, thought "I feel phenomenal" and actually meant it. I was shocked. I didn't even notice the change. TL;DR: How you talk changes how you think. Good luck. Please believe me when I say the effort is worthwhile.
- desipenguin 10y ago> The fix to anger is to eliminate your expectations. As Buddha said "Expectations lead to disappointment"