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Hmm. Thanks for taking the time to respond, but I'm still not clear on this. It's possible I'm beyond help. I can see how the statement that it was irrational

Hmm. Thanks for taking the time to respond, but I'm still not clear on this. It's possible I'm beyond help. I can see how the statement that it was irrational of her to stay makes potentially invalid assumptions. It seems appropriate to me to asterisk that with something like "if my boss did this to me I'd leave", which I suppose is how I was reading the earlier statements anyways. Having said that, the amended statement seems innocuous to me and could be read positively ("I wouldn't be as tough as she is in this situation"). Reading the rest of your response it seems this kind of what-if is the core of the issue to you. Is that correct?

monodeldiablo 10y ago
You're really twisting the GP's words there. Converting a sentence condemning her for being "irrational" into one claiming "I wouldn't be as tough as she is in this situation" is a mighty big leap. Even as you amended it ("if my boss did this to me..."), it's still irrelevant and focuses on the victim's behavior after the harassment, not the act itself. Now, if what you want to say is "I wouldn't be as tough as she is...", then simply go for it. It's still irrelevant, but can at least be construed as supportive to the victim. The original statement -- that she was "irrational" for staying -- cannot, and is wildly inappropriate.