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It's not a problem for anyone other than the overly self-conscious, who are looking for reasons to explain their anxiety. Literally no one cares.
by Baeocystin 10y ago
It's not a problem for anyone other than the overly self-conscious, who are looking for reasons to explain their anxiety. Literally no one cares.
- Philadelphia 10y agoI was once rejected from a job interview at a DC startup because I didn't order a beer when they took me to lunch.
- Baeocystin 10y agoEven if that is what they said, do you honestly believe that was the real reason?
- Philadelphia 10y agoBeyond the slightest doubt.
- routelastresort 10y agoWell, it's safe to say you dodged a bullet then :)
- smsm42 10y agoThis seems a reason so stupid to reject somebody that either a) they didn't like you but didn't want to tell you the real reason, but didn't care enough to think about a plausibly sounding fake one; or b) you dodged a major bullet as these people had seriously messed up priorities. I'd bet on a) but can't exclude b) completely of course.
- zyngaro 10y agoInteresting. What do you mean by self-conscious ?
- Baeocystin 10y agohttps://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/01/26/how-to-be-less-self-conscious/ https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/01/26/how-to-be-... for examples. The tl;dr is that people who are insecure will attempt to rationalize their feelings, and this frequently includes feelings of judgement and persecution from others where none exists.
- kentt 10y agoI believe I was rejected after a job interview because of not drinking. Another boss I had any a different job told me he fired someone for not partying with everyone else. If you went to these parties and didn't drink, the boss would harass you all night. I agree with you that many people are just self conscious, but it's not exclusively that way.
- komali2 10y agoBoth of your cases sound like shitty places to work.