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This story is not realistic enough to be credible, nor is it reasonable evidence as a counterpoint. "Pay for the life of his ex-wife"? What does that even mean?
by j2kun 10y ago
This story is not realistic enough to be credible, nor is it reasonable evidence as a counterpoint. "Pay for the life of his ex-wife"? What does that even mean? Is it court-ordered alimony? I can hardly believe a judge would order alimony that is "financially ruinous" for either party, and if it is the case your coworker can appeal the judgement.
Even if your story were true, it has nothing to do with the climate of western culture, nor is it reasonable to extract a broad judgement of women from this anecdote. Correct me if I'm wrong, but it also seems from your comment that you don't personally know the woman whose intentions you're inferring (from the evidence of a biased party).
- Kenji 10y ago>This story is not realistic enough to be credible Wut? >Even if your story were true, it has nothing to do with the climate of western culture Wut? You sound patronising and dismissive. >Is it court-ordered alimony? Of course. And she gets the kids most of the time, too. Even though it was her who had an affair and initiated the divorce. >I can hardly believe a judge would order alimony that is "financially ruinous" for either party Clearly, you have literally no idea about how divorces work.
- j2kun 10y agoThe purpose of alimony is to ensure neither party falls into poverty as a result of the divorce. If your friend is struggling as a software engineer, it's clear he's living above his means. But that's beside the point. My comment wasn't an attempt to engage in discussion. I was simply explaining why (I thought) your comment was being downvoted: it was vague, not very credible sounding, did not support your claim about women, and didn't contribute to the discussion. From your neighboring comment, it's clear you think you're doing a moral service by writing that comment, when (IMO) it's just a poorly written comment. I would be more specific about what in the comment could be improved, but I think you would just reply with "Wut?"
- gspetr 10y agoThat story is one that sadly happens all too often. It's even worse for the poor, who are not engineers as in parent's story, you will get thrown into a jail or a prison if you are unable to pay because your sources of income are too small or to irregular: https://qz.com/397579/the-divorce-divide-how-the-us-legal-system-screws-poor-parents/ https://qz.com/397579/the-divorce-divide-how-the-us-legal-sy... Do you honestly believe none of these people had not tried to appeal the judgement? And if the appeal court rules that the initial judgment stays then what?