You obviously have no idea how often and prominently thoughts like "I must not be a victim!" or "I must pull myself together" feature in the compulsive thought

You obviously have no idea how often and prominently thoughts like "I must not be a victim!" or "I must pull myself together" feature in the compulsive thought patterns of a depressive's experience, deepening the depressive state, especially if the person used to be very creative and productive. Seriously, please do not suggest to a clinically depressed person that they "just need to power through this" or something, because they are quiet likely to try, and they might end up killing themselves because it doesn't work. It's like persuading somebody with a broken leg to run a marathon, saying "Don't be such a wimp! No pain, no gain!". "Victim or not" is simply in the wrong ballpark. A depressive person is a patient. Many of them have real trouble with accepting this fact, which is a symptom of their disease. If you're not depressive, you should have less problems understanding it. Please don't make it harder for them by pushing in the wrong direction.