I think it also comes from the people that you are leading, the organizational culture and the national expectations for behavior. I have a colleague that resp

I think it also comes from the people that you are leading, the organizational culture and the national expectations for behavior. I have a colleague that responds best to aggressive speech, but another that communicates best one-on-one in non-meeting scenarios. Communication can be hard for people who are used to being precise in order to be understood -- sometimes being understood isn't enough. Effective communication goes beyond being understood and extends to the emotional and cultural aspects of the conveyance of the message. The easier it is for someone to listen to you, the deeper your message will penetrate. The problem is that "ease(message)" varies by individual.