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It's not important that you know someone is "queer sapiosexual". It's important that the person who is knows, and is able to describe themselves. I'm a homo-ro
by iMark 10y ago
It's not important that you know someone is "queer sapiosexual". It's important that the person who is knows, and is able to describe themselves.
I'm a homo-romantic asexual, and it took me until I was nearly 40 before I understood this. I often wonder how differently my life might have turned out if I'd realised this sooner.
People often complain about labels. They're not labels - they're tools we can use to understand ourselves, and help others to understand us.
- smallnamespace 10y agoLabels can repress as well as emancipate, if there is a general expectation for people to conform to existing categories, and those categories are rigidly defined.
- danudey 10y agoLooking at this from a technological perspective, it reminds me of the shift from categorization to tagging in information categorization. Instead of being 'Male or female', or 'Gay or straight', now there are a range of different adjectives people can apply to themselves (cis/trans, gay/straight, male/female, a/bi/homo/pansexual, a/bi/homo/panromantic, and so on). Rather than having to fit into one of two boxes, people who cross those boundaries in one way or another can specify that specifically. I think a lot of the confusion a lot of people have these days with regards to gender and identity politics is the proliferation of new terminology to describe the wide variations in preferences and identities.