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I understand and agree with you w.r.t. hostels vs. hotels, and also feeling too old for that scene. I regularly get the impression that people become less outg
by tastythrowaway 10y ago
I understand and agree with you w.r.t. hostels vs. hotels, and also feeling too old for that scene. I regularly get the impression that people become less outgoing over time (unless they're already tipsy when you meet them). I feel like when I meet people around my age (late 30s/early 40s) they're already all friended up and will donate no more than polite small talk or mindless automatic chit-chat. The halcyon days of being moulded by new experiences and sharing in a stranger's adventures belong to my son now :)
- CalRobert 10y agoI can sympathize there. I still like meeting new people, but I have a partner now, which makes it harder. Also, I suppose the conversation has to shift a bit; you can only talk about which countries you've gone to before it seems like you're just having the same chat over and over again. Also, when you're older and have already spent a decade or more accumulating good friends (one hopes!) the exploration/exploitation equation starts to favour spending more time with old friends than making new ones.
- umberway 10y agoIt's about shared negative emotional experiences, of which their are more when one is young e.g. school, leaving home. It follows that if you wish to befriend adults you need to share a rock climbing accident, get stuck together in an airport for 72 hours, or similar.