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Sit down and talk with the boss. Sure, he may find it harder to intervene when it's a friend, but he may also have a lot more leverage over a friend than he wou
by azernik 10y ago
Sit down and talk with the boss. Sure, he may find it harder to intervene when it's a friend, but he may also have a lot more leverage over a friend than he would over an average employee - namely, the threat of shaming among their shared friends.
- sporkenfang 10y agoThe problem I'm having with it is he has to know this guy does this. It's not exactly subtle or I likely would not have noticed. He's been in the room before when it happened, and the two of them go out for drinks on Fridays and such all the time. I think it is not a problem for him or he would have pulled the guy aside and told him.
- raspasov 10y agoYou should probably find a new startup to join/start.
- sporkenfang 10y agoThat's my plan actually. Once I have nothing to lose I'm going to tell the guy he's being an asshole to the women engineers and ask if he'd consider not doing that because it's a shitty way to treat anyone. Preferably with boss present.
- azernik 10y agoHe may be in denial about other people's perceptions. You talked about bringing it up after you have an escape plan - make sure you're bringing it up with the boss too.