I thought that story was awesome, though I completely respect those who hated it. Here is whyb (somewhat stream of conciousness... sorry...): Long term relati

I thought that story was awesome, though I completely respect those who hated it. Here is whyb (somewhat stream of conciousness... sorry...): Long term relationships take work and commitment, including possibly long stretches of unhappiness. This article celebrates working toward something besides "fun". A rewarding life is NOT the same as being happy all the time. If you ask me, focusing on happiness above all else is tantamount to addiction, and really bad. ("Self overcoming" is what makes a rewarding life, and self overcoming almost requires suffering; I study math -- suffering is fun once you get the taste...) She wouldn't take the blame for his crappiness, and decided to be OK with herself; she practiced this OK-ness even when it didn't come naturally. I hate to be all curmudgeonly, but between the 1960s and Freud we have adopted a VERY self indulgent ideology which makes me want to puke. (And which has probably fueled a big part of the conservative movement, unfortunately...) I may have other less easily expressed reactions that are coloring my overall gestalt, but I think those sum it up.