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She never once in this story actually sat with her partner and tried to understand what was going on with him Of course she has tried that and of course he cou
by Confusion 16y ago
She never once in this story actually sat with her partner and tried to understand what was going on with him
Of course she has tried that and of course he couldn't explain what was wrong. It is crystal clear that the man wasn't clear on what he thought should be changed. As jjames points out in another comment, his life involves much more than just her. This woman recognized that, accepted that and gave the man room to work out his problems, because those problems did not (primarily) have to do with their relationship.
- sshumaker 16y agoClearly this story wasn't the whole story. If you read the followup article, you learn that his business recently failed, and he had lost his sense of self-worth - all of which the wife was aware.
- IsaacSchlueter 16y agoSo why wasn't she helping him to process this pain and mourn his losses rather than simply ignoring his pleas for help? "Giving someone space" is not the same as just telling them you don't believe them and turning away from them. I remain convinced that she's a narcissistic person who doesn't know what love is, and this story is heartbreaking for all the wrong reasons.
- IsaacSchlueter 16y agoOf course she has tried that and of course he couldn't explain what was wrong. Ah, the laziest excuse for bad behavior ever. "I tried that, and it didn't work!" He couldn't explain what was wrong, but he was trying to explain how he felt. These things are complicated. And rather than try to help him explore this problem, she refused to listen, because his feelings didn't jive with her worldview.