Holy cow. You are me 5 years ago! Australia. 31. No assets. Partner finishing her studies. Couldn't afford a house. No kid. Needs to lose 20kg. Can't give up C

Holy cow. You are me 5 years ago! Australia. 31. No assets. Partner finishing her studies. Couldn't afford a house. No kid. Needs to lose 20kg. Can't give up Coke (Zero anyway, I don't touch the real stuff because of the calories but increasingly Aspartame is shown to inhibit weight loss too). Spoiler: She finished study and having the extra security from another income stream meant we could buy a house last year. We had to save a deposit though which took a long time and a few steps up in my career and lots and lots of overtime and development on my part - a year or two of 60-80 hour weeks and a few job changes too. Also the job market is always iffy for both of us but we simply couldn't rent a dog box any longer. The place we have now is a bit on the edges of the city so takes 30-45 minutes each way to work but at least we can breathe! We won't be able to have kids, at least not now. Ive projected we will pay off the loan in about 10 years so maybe then. Because we pay double the minimum. As for weight I lost 3kg this year so far. It had really hit the limit and when I went to the Doctor end of last year and after a blood test he said the diabetes word. Since then all I've done is 20 minutes a day on the treadmill while watching Voltron on Netflix, cutting out most of the Coke and junk food, but most importantly cutting down on dinner. Really I don't miss the Coke much. We have other stuff like making a milkshake (mostly ice, a bit of milk, and a banana or coffee shot and a scoop of chocolate powder). It's pretty filling. Sometimes we skip dinner and just have a banana shake. Did you know you're only meant to have ~100g of meat a day??? We were eating 250-500 and now we are down to about 150g per day (with some allowances up or down). That right sizes everything once you notice the difference and your plates are half as big as they used to be. There's still a long way to go on both fronts. But man. Go lift a 3kg weight. That's a bloody lot! Now imagine 20kg! We are right to feel guilty and need to do something about it. Good luck.