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I think in this context "I don't buy it" is closer to "I think you are misinterpreting your feelings" rather than invalidation. With respect to her emotional d
by resdirector 16y ago
I think in this context "I don't buy it" is closer to "I think you are misinterpreting your feelings" rather than invalidation.
With respect to her emotional distance, John Gray's book: "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus" has some good insight re Men's need for space and distance when things go bad. I think her actions were very sensible for a long term relationship.
- theorique 16y agoI think in this context "I don't buy it" is closer to "I think you are misinterpreting your feelings" rather than invalidation. I agree - it's more about her saying something like: "I'm not going to take your apparent desire for a divorce as 100%, literally true (yet) because I know you've got a lot of emotional 'stuff' going on right now. Go and do your thing, take some space to work things out, and if you do work it out, come back and let's talk again. If you're serious, we'll figure that out at the appropriate time." which is a very mature reaction, in a way that invalidation wouldn't be.