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I suspect that we are ALL reading our own perspectives into this story quite a bit, so I can't say that you're wrong. Where you see "refusing to engage with hi

I suspect that we are ALL reading our own perspectives into this story quite a bit, so I can't say that you're wrong. Where you see "refusing to engage with him emotionally", I see her simply declining to respond to his drama with counter-drama of her own. She had an insight that let her avoid bringing her own ego into his situation, thereby simplifying the path to a resolution. As an aside, as someone who had a parent who made their own happiness into an ever-present concern for their children, I agree vehemently with the notion that it isn't age-appropriate to do that.

georgieporgie 16y ago
> Where you see "refusing to engage with him emotionally", I see her simply declining to respond to his drama with counter-drama of her own. Here's another view: he never wanted to leave her, he simply wanted some excitement and passion back in his life. Maybe he wanted to simply see that his wife really still had deep, romantic feelings for him. If it takes a loud, screaming argument to bring that about, then so be it. She came across to me as hyper-controlling and robotic. Her descriptions of there life seem like it's all really dull, but satisfactory to her. I didn't see anything about him expressing what he wants and her responding to that.