I think you've missed a great deal of the point of the article. Read the followup too (see tokenadult's comment). This is one of those rare cases where "passi

I think you've missed a great deal of the point of the article. Read the followup too (see tokenadult's comment). This is one of those rare cases where "passive aggression" (stonewalling) is actually the most effective thing to do. If your partner claims to be unhappy with your relationship, but you're really sure they're actually miserable with some other aspect of their life, then this seems like a workable strategy. I think you got confused because another instance where stonewalling is an effective strategy happens to be dealing with childrens' tantrums.