This situation is what is known as a double-bind: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Double_bind https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Double_bind I.E. When someone tells

This situation is what is known as a double-bind: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Double_bind https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Double_bind I.E. When someone tells you "You must be free!", this is a psychological trap, because if you are not free to decide if you want to be free, then you can't really be free.