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I'm not sure I buy the binary approach to this, nor his experience with "extroverts." One, I'm not really one or the other; 23andme quizzes claims I'm extrover

by araneae 16y ago

I'm not sure I buy the binary approach to this, nor his experience with "extroverts." One, I'm not really one or the other; 23andme quizzes claims I'm extroverted, Meyer Briggs claims I'm introverted. I actually went around and asked people in my high school what they thought I was, and all the teachers thought I was an extrovert and all the students thought I was an introvert. Apparently it's situational. And like the author, I often get tired of talking to people. But usually it's a result of conversing with someone who is extremely talkative. Sure, those people don't seem to get that you are not into talking... but not because they're extroverts. It's because they're socially disabled. Only someone who can't read facial cues will keep chattering away at you. Most people can see I'm getting weary and will stop. I think this guy met one to many people who basically can't tell that you're just not interested in speaking with them, and confused them with "extroverts."

pavs 16y ago
Don't worry, You are normal. I am an introvert, who loves me time, but also would love to be able to socialize more without feeling like I am forcing myself to be more outgoing. I wish it was more natural.
j_baker 16y ago
Introversion and extraversion are preferences, not skills. People who are introverted can do all the things that an extravert can, they just don't want to. It's also possible to develop one even though your preference is for another. You may just be a well-rounded person in terms of social skills. To make a long story short, phrasing things in terms of a strict dichotomy is an oversimplification, but I think it's one that makes this author's point clearer. It's difficult to discuss all of the ins and outs without making a piece like this overly complex.
- cracki 16y ago
  they aren't preferences either, because preferences can change easily.

by araneae 16y ago

pavs 16y ago

Don't worry, You are normal. I am an introvert, who loves me time, but also would love to be able to socialize more without feeling like I am forcing myself to be more outgoing. I wish it was more natural.

j_baker 16y ago

Introversion and extraversion are preferences, not skills. People who are introverted can do all the things that an extravert can, they just don't want to. It's also possible to develop one even though your preference is for another. You may just be a well-rounded person in terms of social skills. To make a long story short, phrasing things in terms of a strict dichotomy is an oversimplification, but I think it's one that makes this author's point clearer. It's difficult to discuss all of the ins and outs without making a piece like this overly complex.

cracki 16y ago
they aren't preferences either, because preferences can change easily.