In-person interactions inherently come with a litany of drawbacks due to the fact that we're human beings. One of them is that confidence makes you look better

In-person interactions inherently come with a litany of drawbacks due to the fact that we're human beings. One of them is that confidence makes you look better than nervousness or any kind of desire (certainly better than desperation). That's regardless of your skills. Other irrelevant things like how tall you are, how symmetric your face and dress is, how charismatic you are, etc all take precedence. Even if you're aware of these flaws in yourself, and attempt to compensate for them, you will fail. Not giving a shit would be a great strategy. As would being tall.