I never understood the view. People are not fish, and are not just looking for any fish. Getting an SO is not that difficult. Getting the right SO is a whole di

I never understood the view. People are not fish, and are not just looking for any fish. Getting an SO is not that difficult. Getting the right SO is a whole different story. Some people get the right SO. Most people get an SO and stick with them, and it works out or not. Some don't want to settle for any SO they came across, and stay single. The idea that everyone should always have an SO at all times strikes me as really, really strange, and it would seem to lead to all sorts of issues. "there's something wrong with you" is such a generic statement to make that doesn't really say anything about reality and just causes neurosis all over the place. Plenty of absolutely abhorrent people have SO's, and I've met plenty nice people who can't get SO's or just don't really want them. There are some factors that affect likelihood of having an SO and they're not really aligned with the "something wrong" scale. The issue with the OP isn't his refusal to hate himself, because that's pointless. It's his odd standards for the other gender, but, hey, maybe he just refuses to settle for less, it is his prerogative.