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Yeah, I hate how women are never normally distributed. Only men operate in statistically simple distributions.

csomar 10y ago
No, they are normally distributed. Men are just attracted to the top 1% (or even 0.1%) of women. It just happens that most women are not that physically attractive which is an important trait for both genders. Once you realize this and figure out how much you are worth (sexually), dating will really become easier.
- aianus 10y ago
  The data shows it's women who have unrealistic expectations of beauty. They rate 80% of men as uglier than average on dating sites [0] [0] https://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dating/ https://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dat...
  - hueving 10y ago
    They are critical, but not unrealistic. From that blog: "As you can see from the gray line, women rate an incredible 80% of guys as worse-looking than medium. Very harsh. On the other hand, when it comes to actual messaging, women shift their expectations only just slightly ahead of the curve, which is a healthier pattern than guys’ pursuing the all-but-unattainable."
    - aianus 10y ago
      You can also interpret that as "women would rather date guys they think are ugly than be alone" (as the author does in the following sentences).
      - hueving 10y ago
        Isn't that being realistic though?
        Caprinicus 10y ago
        Only if you assume the default position is needing to constantly have a partner
  - projektir 10y ago
    The data doesn't show that. It shows behavior on okcupid sites. Presumably. I don't understand why we blindly believe this data given many known issues about psych and sociology studies.
  - erroneousfunk 10y ago
    It's no big secret that women are often bombarded by messages and other overtures on dating sites. Perhaps the "viewing males as more unattractive than they might otherwise" just stems from being primed for pickiness, especially on the Internet. If you meet someone at a party, maybe he's a friend of a friend, you talk to him for a while, you might think "He seems like a reasonably handsome guy!" You see the same guy as a profile picture, out of a sea of 20 others messaging you at the same time, and you're just mentally primed for reasons to reject people, rather than accept them. You're more likely to think "Ugh, stupid haircut. 1/5 stars. Would not date" So I don't think that women have unrealistic expectations of beauty, in general everyday life, it's just that the motivations and mindset is so much different on dating sites.
- forgetsusername 10y ago
  >It just happens that most women are not that physically attractive This is a pretty bold assertion. On what do you base it? Seems to me that the average woman is average looking.
  - Marinlemaignan 10y ago
    Logical enough

No, they are normally distributed. Men are just attracted to the top 1% (or even 0.1%) of women. It just happens that most women are not that physically attractive which is an important trait for both genders. Once you realize this and figure out how much you are worth (sexually), dating will really become easier.

aianus 10y ago
The data shows it's women who have unrealistic expectations of beauty. They rate 80% of men as uglier than average on dating sites [0] [0] https://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dating/ https://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/your-looks-and-online-dat...
- hueving 10y ago
  They are critical, but not unrealistic. From that blog: "As you can see from the gray line, women rate an incredible 80% of guys as worse-looking than medium. Very harsh. On the other hand, when it comes to actual messaging, women shift their expectations only just slightly ahead of the curve, which is a healthier pattern than guys’ pursuing the all-but-unattainable."
  - aianus 10y ago
    You can also interpret that as "women would rather date guys they think are ugly than be alone" (as the author does in the following sentences).
    - hueving 10y ago
      Isn't that being realistic though?
      - Caprinicus 10y ago
        Only if you assume the default position is needing to constantly have a partner
- projektir 10y ago
  The data doesn't show that. It shows behavior on okcupid sites. Presumably. I don't understand why we blindly believe this data given many known issues about psych and sociology studies.
- erroneousfunk 10y ago
  It's no big secret that women are often bombarded by messages and other overtures on dating sites. Perhaps the "viewing males as more unattractive than they might otherwise" just stems from being primed for pickiness, especially on the Internet. If you meet someone at a party, maybe he's a friend of a friend, you talk to him for a while, you might think "He seems like a reasonably handsome guy!" You see the same guy as a profile picture, out of a sea of 20 others messaging you at the same time, and you're just mentally primed for reasons to reject people, rather than accept them. You're more likely to think "Ugh, stupid haircut. 1/5 stars. Would not date" So I don't think that women have unrealistic expectations of beauty, in general everyday life, it's just that the motivations and mindset is so much different on dating sites.
forgetsusername 10y ago
>It just happens that most women are not that physically attractive This is a pretty bold assertion. On what do you base it? Seems to me that the average woman is average looking.
- Marinlemaignan 10y ago
  Logical enough