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>I don't care what might be bothering [someone] Sorry, but people like you are what creates this 'hostile' attitude. You're supposed to care whether your kids

• fierarul 10y ago
  The problem is some people are so out of touch with a reality that includes children that they become too easily bothered. A child throwing a tantrum is bothering. A child just saying something out loud or running around a bit is just being a child.
• sidlls 10y ago
  That's a fairly self-centered view you have there. Why should anyone care what bothers you?
  • J-dawg 10y ago
    In my opinion the more self-centered view is going around doing exactly what you want without any concession to how it affects other people. I regularly think about whether my actions are bothering anyone else. It's the opposite of self-centeredness, and something that many modern parents fail to do.
    • sidlls 10y ago
      That isn't the opposite of self-centeredness. In fact odds are you avoid behaviors that annoy you. You simply aren't gifted enough to know the range of behavior that might bother others. To think you do is arrogant and more than a little self-centered.
  • acedinlowball 10y ago
    Doing something without any regards to how it will affect other people around you is pretty much the definition of self-centered there, chief.
• omegaham 10y ago
  It depends on the place. If you're in an expensive restaurant or a movie theater, yes, you should most definitely care if your kids are bothering people. If you're in the supermarket or some other public place, well, kids are kids, and shopping has to get done. All you can do is ensure that a tantrum is always wasted effort, and little kids stay in the novelty race car-shaped cart so that they aren't toppling the pyramid of soup cans onto themselves.
• tobltobs 10y ago
  If I would care about everything what someone could bother I would have to lock my kids into the house the whole day.
• mcv 10y ago
  I care whether my children behave themselves. I'm too busy caring about my kids to worry about what other people might think. In my experience, most people are reasonable, but some are not. I don't waste time on those if I've got more important people to worry about.
• analog31 10y ago
  My view is that a child throwing a tantrum in the supermarket, and a 20-something being bothered by it, are two sides of the same coin. And in fact, I care about the consequences of either behavior, but not the causes. Of course we care at some level. We're programmed to care, otherwise kids wouldn't have developed the tantrum gene. If my baby has a tantrum in the supermarket, I will swing into tantrum mode and deal with it. If my kid reaches the age of 20-something, and expresses hostility towards the reasonably expected range of human behaviors observed in a typical civic environment, well, I hope that doesn't happen. Sure, it takes a village to raise a child. But if it's somebody else's baby, or somebody else's 20-something, then in fact I don't care about it in the same way as if it's my own.