Having just hit the one-year mark myself: default to happiness. Children don't need to be pushed to grow and learn. They do it readily all on their own. What's

Having just hit the one-year mark myself: default to happiness. Children don't need to be pushed to grow and learn. They do it readily all on their own. What's important is guiding them, and to not push them too hard, lest they learn to hate learning. You'll see it. They are not black holes. They provide plenty of feedback.